Wow, time does fly by. Feels like a minute ago, it was everyone "gear up for the Holidays"; "Happy New Year!"; and then January, winter for some of us, catch up on bills for most of us. Time ticks by so fast!
Every moment counts is a saying for a reason. Staying present to catch the nuances of each event. The smiles and new language of a toddler, the crawl/walk of a baby, the driving lessons of a teenager etc..
No kids? Make sure to catch the beautiful feelings that nature inspires, the love of a pet when they sleep beside you, the secure warm feeling of snuggling under a blanket with your significant other (or alone) and watching a good movie.
So much unrest and fear is happening in the world around us, we want to be present for that as well. Counter the fear with action. Stay current and know that together we can all make it to the next phase.
This is a constant struggle for most of us, to catch ourselves feeling fear and feeling alone in our own little worlds. The Woman's march and subsequent protests have certainly proved that we are never alone!
So, catch yourself as quick as you can when thinking negative thoughts. Immediately focus on your present moment; where are you? who's with you? what's around you? what can you feel that's good, peaceful or easy?
We're at the end of another year! Many feelings can crop up at times like these. Negative emotions like Regret, envy and anger as well as the good ones like joy, peace and love. The one important feeling that we need to practice on the most is Gratitude. This should constantly be running through the background of our minds. Being aware of our thoughts and feelings leads to lots of practice in changing our thought patterns.
Here are 4 practices from Mindful magazine to Foster Gratitude:
Four Practices to Foster Gratitude
Changing your thought pattern isn’t easy. If you find yourself triggered by a negative event, stuck in a negative thought loop, or unsure how to begin, try some of the following tips:
1) Keep a gratitude journal. Each night before you go to bed, take a moment to write down three things that made you feel grateful throughout the day. Robert Emmons’ research demonstrates that keeping a gratitude journal for as little as three weeks results in better sleep and more energy.
2) Set an intention to pay attention. Take time to acknowledge all the encounters that make you feel grateful.
3) Engage a family discussion. If you are a parent with teens, start a family
conversation by asking: What obstacles are you facing? Or, share a time when you were open to a new experience and you benefited from it. Having your family members express their present moment experiences can help set the stage for more connection, appreciation, and compassion.
4) Start a class discussion. If you’re an educator, gather your students in a circle and ask them to think about 10 things they’re grateful for. After a few moments of reflection, engage them in a structured discussion by asking: “Share one person that you are grateful for in your life and why.” Student-driven conversations can help build an appreciation for their diverse experiences as well as their common humanity. **
It may not come easy at first, but the more you express your thanks and gratitude on a daily basis the more natural it becomes. So even if it feels forced, stick with it and commit! Trust me, nothing can stop the flow of life and apparently it has joy, suffering, delight and happiness.
Happy Holidays and Happy New Year to you and your families. Let's all start the New Year practicing positive thoughts!!!
There has always been a question of how to balance your life as a caregiver. No matter what type of caregiver, whether it’s a parent, child or family member with Alzheimer’s, Autism or Depression, the role is for the most part an unpaid one.
*There are an estimated 43.5 million unpaid caregivers in the US. Most are tending to a relative and nearly a quarter report that their health has suffered under the strain. The total estimated economic value is high, estimated at $470 billion in 2013.
*Women give up an estimated $324,000 in earnings on average; men lose $284,000.
*Female caregivers are more likely to stop working (12% vs. 3% for men) or take a less demanding job.
*Single women caring for their family members are 2.5 times more likely than non caregivers to live in poverty in old age.
*Scientists have found that culture, gender and relationship dynamics can help explain why some people fare better than others when caring for someone in need.
*Respite programs, counselors, peer support groups and interventions can all help caregivers manage the challenges of their role.
*(Scientific Magazine, Nov. 2016).
In this age of advanced technology, there still isn’t anything that can take the role for a caregiver. Human touch, compassion, empathy; these cannot be substituted. “It takes a village” can be applied here. In the many studies reported in this article, age, gender and race all played a part in how well the caregiver managed their circumstance. Where technology has been and will be exceedingly helpful is allowing access to websites related to each caregivers situation.
There are websites for Autism (www.autismspeaks.org), Alzheimer’s,(www.alz.org) Depression, Schizophrenia (www.nami.org) and more. Speaking to others (via email or phone) in similar situations provides a release of tension and stress. It allows a sharing of ideas, therapies and relaxation techniques.
It brings to light just how many people are in this situation and how many more will be very soon.
As I age and both my parents and my husband's parents are reaching their eighties, having help from the community will be necessary. Practicing mindfulness, meditation, eating well and exercising will be key to maintaining good health and disposition. When the time comes for us, and it will come for most everyone eventually, reaching out and having a human connection can make the difference on how well we each manage our caregiving.
I'm reflecting back to last year's picture here. I ended up writing about perception then and instead of re-sending the same article, here's what came out this year!
Do you know anyone personally that was born on Halloween? I do! For some reason, when I became acquainted with this person, Halloween took on a whole new meaning. It wasn't about how much candy we could grab or how many kids we could scare. It became a Holiday for real!
Every year since then, a birthday Halloween party has taken place. Costumes are always optional, but became the norm. The results of this change, adults and kids go trick or treating together! As the kids got older, we were blessed to live in a neighborhood that consolidates the celebration over two streets. Anyone can go up , walk around and take part in the atmosphere. Adults dress up as much as the kids do, you should see the faces of the kids when they walk around up there! Priceless. Firetrucks and Police come around to hand out candy and stickers. So many costumes to see!
We all come home to sing Happy Birthday, have some cake (usually Pineapple upside down) and party a few more hours.
If you don't know anyone personally that celebrates their birthday on the 31st, pretend! If that's not your thing, find out where your neighborhood celebrations are held and soak it in.
It makes the evening so much more fun when you have a common purpose for the evening. It makes this Holiday an actual holiday instead of sitting it out and only handing out candy. ( or banana ghosts and clementine pumpkins)
While there's absolutely nothing wrong with that scenario, especially if you never get a break, it couldn't hurt to try something new!
Are you familiar with the mid-afternoon slump? You know, the fog that rolls in sometime between 2pm and 5pm, without so much as a warning, destroying your will to do anything except curl up in a ball under your desk. You're not alone. The afternoon slump is a real, biological phenomenon that lots of people experience every single day. In fact, it's a sign your internal clock-fluctuations in energy and body temperature regulated by our circadian rhythms- is running on time.
That doesn't mean the slump has to keep you down! Clear away the haze with a few body-and-brain-boosting tricks- none of which involve pumping yourself full of sugar or caffeine- so you can go forth into the world with a fresh mind.
Stretching for even 20 seconds can have a huge effect on your energy levels- particularly if you've been sitting at a desk for hours. Stand up and reach down to touch your toes; bring your hands together and reach above your head; imagine yourself as a cat to deepen your stretch. Just Kidding! (sort of- if you've got a good imagination and like cats, it could help!)
2. Close your eyes for 2 full minutes
It's hard to truly comprehend how much time we spend with our eyes widened by the glaring light of our phones, TV's and Computers. Not only is it physically straining, it's also mentally draining. Place your hands over your eyes for 2 minutes, reach the time you have to sit still and be with yourself.
3. Tidy up
When you create an uplifted environment for yourself, your mind and body follow suit. Take a few minutes to clean up your desk, wash a few dishes or straighten up your coffee table.
4. Call a loved one and tell them why they matter
It's always worthwhile to extend yourselves to others, so pick up the phone and feel your heart swell. It'll make their day better; it'll make your day better.
5. Take a walk
There's nothing like fresh air to perk you up when you're feeling hazy. If you spend your days in an office building, the air can get pretty stale. Get up and get out even if you've only git 5 minutes to spare. It'll get your blood flowing, your muscles moving and will offer your mind a fresh start.
Ok, I have been the ultimate believer in Louise Hay and others that teach the connection of emotion to the physical. In other words, what we are thinking in the background of our minds can have a direct affect on the physical body. Knowing this, even practicing this over and over, does not prevent me from actually experiencing it for myself.
I don't want to sound like I'm above this mind you, I've known this for years, but it happened anyway!!
Louise Hay's book "You can heal your life" has been a teaching tool for me and my family. It helps to find the correlation between the dis-eases you may have had or are having now and the probable mental cause. She also teaches how to turn any negative thought patterns into positive ones, so that you can actually train your inner dialogue with Affirmations that you can use for each and every condition.
Invaluable! I have used this forever and yet a new physical issue showed up and I was thrown. It actually took me a few days to remember to look it up! When I did, sure enough, scary accurate. "Itis" is itself a category and covers whatever ends with it. In the book, this means; "anger and frustration about conditions you are looking at in your life." Well, yes! that's exactly right. Without boring you with the details, suffice it to say, my summer was one of freedom, solitude and peace, at the end of which was back to chaos and no privacy.
As much as I told myself that it was alright, I would be fine, all would be well, in the back of my mind I was actually thinking; Nooooooo! I'm not ready to go back....
Physically I was feeling pretty sick with pain a good week before my summer ended! I have had to go the route of Doctors and Hospitals to figure out the problem and treat it. I should have known, but there is no knowing is there? Even for those of us that know better.
I'm home now, feeling normal again, repeating my Louise Hay affirmation; "I am willing to change all patterns of criticism. I love and approve of myself." every minute of every day.
I found this great little article for the season. Enjoy!
5 Foods for Healthy Summer Recipes How to eat right and still treat your taste buds this season
By Janet Lee
July 18, 2016
Burgers, barbecued ribs, hot dogs, ice cream, potato salad. Those summer classics taste good but aren’t always so healthy because of their high fat and calorie content. But this season brings an abundance of fresh, flavorful fruits and vegetables packed with good-for-you nutrients—and there are many healthy summer recipes that require minimal preparation. Using the five delicious foods below in healthy summer recipes will help you “healthy up” your warm-weather menus.
1. Tomatoes and Fresh Mozzarella
A red tomato’s bright color comes from lycopene, an antioxidant that may help reduce the risk of cancer, heart disease, and stroke. A review of studies in the journal Medicine found that men who ate 9 to 21 mg of lycopene per day (a medium tomato has almost 4 mg) were less likely to develop prostate cancer. Fresh mozzarella is lower in calories and fat than some other cheeses, and the fat it contains enhances lycopene absorption.
Try it. Serve sliced tomatoes (either fresh or grilled) topped with cheese and fresh basil, or eat the trio on toasted bread.
2. Beans and Corn
This duo is low in fat and high in filling fiber, which can help you manage cholesterol and blood sugar. A new analysis of studies published in The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition found that people who eat beans regularly are more likely to lose weight even if they’re not trying.
Try it. Toss beans and corn in a little dressing and any fresh herbs you like for this healthy summer recipe. You can add other ingredients, such as avocado, peppers, and tomatoes. Many recipes call for black beans, which have 8 grams of fiber per half-cup.
Tomatoes star in this low-fat, high-fiber chilled soup. Other ingredients can include cucumbers, garlic, onions, and fresh herbs. Some recipes even call for watermelon. The soup has lycopene and the amino acid citrulline, which some evidence suggests might improve blood circulation.
Try it. Blend fresh tomatoes and the other ingredients in a food processor or blender; for creaminess, add avocado. Stir in cooked corn, fish, or shrimp if you like. (Read our special report on pesticides in produce.)
4. Grilled Fruits and Vegetables
Grilling and summer go hand in hand, but cooking meat over an open flame can create potentially carcinogenic compounds called heterocyclic amines, or HCAs. But grilling fruits and vegetables doesn't trigger the same chemical reaction. (Cooking potatoes, on the grill or in the over, to a deep brown, however, can create a compound called acrylamide, which animal studies show can cause cancer.) You can grill almost any produce—even lettuce. It brings out the sweetness in all fruits and vegetables.
Try it. Nectarines, peaches, and plums are particularly tasty when grilled. And they’re a healthy way to satisfy your sweet tooth, alone or with a dollop of ice cream or whipped cream. Slice them in half, remove the pit, and place on the grill, cut side down. Or make kebabs by threading skewers with vegetables or fruits. (Learn how to treat a burn from grilling and cooking.)
Avocados are packed with healthy monounsaturated fat, fiber, and vitamins C and K. A review of 10 studies in the Journal of Clinical Lipidology found that using avocado instead of other fats appeared to reduce total and LDL (bad) cholesterol and triglycerides.
Try it. Instead of tortilla chips, try pairing guacamole with healthier dippers such as vegetables, whole-grain crackers or pita bread, or shrimp. Use it as a side dish or a topping for sandwiches and turkey burgers. You can also add it to eggs, salads, and soups.
What healthy foods do you eat in the summer?
Let us know by leaving a comment below.
For the interesting facts found in this article I am about to share with you, we’ll go along with the author’s title, however please remember that if you do experience back pain at any time in your life, catch yourself when you’re actually saying such powerful words in relation to your physical pain, such as the one above, and try to replace that negative thought or phrase with a positive one.
Here’s a great article written by Ted Spiker for AARP magazine.
1. You’re feeling down.
The blues and more serious mood disorders such as depression can translate into pain in other parts of the body. Researchers from the University of Sydney found that people who had symptoms of depression had 60% greater incidence of back pain compared with those who were not depressed.
Although the link between back pain and depression isn’t clear, one theory is that people who are depressed are less likely to exercise and more likely to have disturbed sleep , both of which contribute to back pain.
The FIX: See a therapist, who can help you manage your low moods. This, in turn, could help your back pain subside.
2. You have tight hips.
A lifetime of sitting steadily decreases hip mobility by thickening the fibrous tissue encasing your joints. This puts extra strain on your lower back, and inflammation from arthritis can make the situation even worse. Plus, if you lean forward when you sit, as most of us do while we’re at the computer, you’re putting almost double the amount of force on your spine, compared with standing, says Alan Hedge , director of Human factors and ergonomics research laboratory at Cornell University.
The FIX: Loosen up your hips with a classic frog pose. With your knees on the floor, spread your legs apart as far as you can. Then roll your upper body forward so your elbows and forearms are on the floor.
3. You’re heavy in the front.
You probably know that being overweight can contribute to back pain, but the location of the pounds makes a difference too, says Kevin Vincent, MD, of the University of Florida. Extra weight in your gut tilts your pelvis and increases the curve of your spine. “The spine’s joints are pushed and under stress” he says, “They compress together”.
The FIX: Exercise both the large and small muscles in your lower back. Lunges, for example, not only force you to use small muscles in your lower back that provide balance; they also target your glutes- the big muscles in your behind that help control your spine and back. Losing that excess weight is also smart: “if you lose weight, the back pain gets better” Vincent says.
4. You’re on the phone—all the time.
Having a strong social network is a sign of good health, but if you’re on the phone too much, you could be putting your back at risk. That’s because bending your neck to read or text can put an extra 60 pounds of force on your spine, says Ken Hansraj, chief of spine surgery & Rehab medicine inPoughkeepsie. Combing this poor posture with the common arthritic buildup or de-generation in your spine’s discs can result in back pain.
The FIX: Keep your head up and eyes looking down. “Good posture is where you bring your ears above you shoulders and open up your chest by retracting your angel wings— your scapula.” Hansraj says. Better still? Use headphones with a built in microphone so you don’t have to bend your neck.
5.You have bad feet.
The body’s systems and organs are linked by what physiologists call the kinetic chain, which works as you’d expect: a weak link anywhere in that chain can create problems elsewhere
For instance, if you have plantar fasciitis (pain in the heels or the bottom of the feet), it can cause a subtle limp that can throw off your gait enough to cause back pain.
The FIX: Any pain that affects your gait- arthritis in a knee, a twisted ankle- should be checked out, not only to solve that issue but to prevent collateral damage too.
The knowing and acceptance that life changes, as do the seasons is part of the natural creation cycle of our universe. I like the metaphor of the seasons as they come and go consistently. We know that change is coming and about when it will, yet there is always something original or a bit different than last the season's change.
Having the attitude of being ready and then, also, to look for the new possibilities in the change that will be there is a lesson I am always relearning - again and again.